Visitation exchanges for divorced parents don’t have to be a battlefield for the kids or the parents.
I have had my share of custody visitation drop offs, some good and some bad. Parents arrive late or not at all. I’ve heard mumbling and grumbling and seen my upset children get in the car as they arrive or depart to spend time with the other parent. But I also know how important it is to make visitation exchanges go smoothly, which is not always an easy thing. After all, how do you work out a schedule, different disciplines and unwilling children when you couldn’t even work things out when you were married?
Follow the schedule but be flexible. Most states order a schedule for visitation that you should follow. But most orders also include “whatever in the best interests of the children or as agreed upon by the parties” as a fallback position. A soccer game is not a good reason to cancel a visitation, but a wedding, funeral, or one of a kind opportunity are all instances where being flexible not only means getting along with your “ex” but showing your children a great deal about making compromises when needed.
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