As my parents get older (and I do too) I find my thoughts sometimes floating towards the macabre. I don’t want to think about what happens when my parents die, but with two little girls in the house (and two older ones too) I know that it’s a topic that I probably should think about and be ready to take on. I know that many moons ago, I may not have done things correctly with my older children when my grandmother died, and I tried my best to deal with their grandmother’s death a couple of years ago. But maybe, just maybe I’ll get it right with these two with just a few terrific tips. . .
This week a friend received the sad news that one of her parents died. On top of everything that event meant to her personally, that also meant that she had to be the one to break the news to her children and she had no idea how to do it or what to do next. Just a couple of years ago we encountered the same situation as a beloved grandmother passed away. So, how do you help your children deal with death and grieving over the grandparents?
Breaking the news. If you can talk to your children in advance of a grandparent’s death it is a good time to prepare them for the concept of death and what will happen next. If you have had a pet die, then you can use that as an example. There are also a number of good storybooks to use to talk to them. The most important thing is to tell them the truth and to not “sugarcoat” it by using terms like “they fell asleep and won’t wake up.” Just what your child doesn’t need to hear before they go to bed . . .continue reading Grieving over grandparents and dealing with death